advice

(attempting to write some advice without using a personal pronoun):

when listening to a woman relate the story of how that woman became engaged, try not to judge the story. the woman cannot change the story because the story happened to that woman. the woman must live with that story. so hold the tongue. a unexciting
and silly engagement story (involving, say, a couch and some cheese puffs) could happen to any woman.

(that was harder than one might imagine)